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18 hours ago

While he's gone put all his clothes in a laundry basket and drop it off at his mommy's

r/TwoXChromosomes u/Sulp_da00. 9h

Boyfriend canceled our last days together before his trip because he got upset with me. need advice

Hi everyone, I'd love some perspective from other women.

My boyfriend is going abroad in two days with his mom for 10 days. Today and tomorrow are my days off, and we had planned to spend them together before he left. But after an argument yesterday, he suddenly decided to go on a gateway with his mom instead, without even telling me until after. I feel really upset and honestly am questioning the relationship.

What basically happened: He was with his mom yesterday and suddenly texted me "Don't throw trash in my car, my mom is complaining." Apparently his mom found an empty water bottle i left the night before and some wipes in his car. I told him it's his car, not hers, and if something bothers her, he can just clean it up. Then he added: "Okay I wore a shirt today and it smells. Maybe we should leave them in the sun more?" I replied that I never noticed my laundry smelling weird, and that he's usually the one saying his clothes smell sometimes. Then he asked: "Do you use the same soap and softener for dark and white clothes? Because my mom says you need different ones so they don't smell." I said that's not true. He insisted his mom said it's true and that when she did his laundry he never had issues. At that point I got upset and said something like: "Don't tell me nonsense just because your mom says so. Even before we lived together, your clothes sometimes smelled weird. If something smel

Later, I ended up asking my mom, and she confirmed it's not about different detergents, but about certain fabrics (polyester, nylon, etc.) holding odors more than cotton.

I feel like I'm not being respected or prioritized, and I'm questioning if this is a red flag about how things will be long term. At the same time, I wonder if I overreacted by getting defensive.

Have any of you been in a similar situation? How do you handle it when a partner lets his mom's opinions spill into your relationship? Am I overthinking this, or is it worth reconsidering things?

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Milady Migraine @miladymigraine.bsky.social

7 hours ago

He’s a mama’s boy. It won’t get better. Move out while he’s gone.

Seriously, he scheduled a vacation with his mom, because he was mad at her. Just fuck that shit

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