Alex @alexanotherone.bsky.social

3 days ago

You can live the Westchester dream and never have to leave Manhattan

i’m still married because divorce would mean losing this apartment

i’m 32 and living in a high-rise in manhattan with my husband. on paper, it looks perfect. he made partner at his firm last year and we moved into a luxury building with its own elevator, concierge, and a view people post on instagram. the kind of place people work decades to afford.

inside, it doesn’t feel like much. we barely speak. we don’t share a bedroom. his phone lights up late at night and i’ve stopped asking questions. my day is a routine of yoga classes, overpriced coffee, skincare, and socializing with other women in the building. we gather for wine nights and act like everything is fine. it isn’t. i know two are sleeping with the same trainer. one broke down crying during pilates and everyone pretended not to notice.

sometimes i think about leaving, but then i picture walking away from all of this—the apartment, the security, the status that comes with living here. i realize what i’m holding onto isn’t him, and it isn’t the marriage. it’s the life the building represents.

so i stay. not because i’m happy, but because starting over feels heavier than staying stuck.

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dFisher @daien.bsky.social

3 days ago

Somebody I know never married because she'd have to give up her rent-controlled closet, and where would she live after they broke up? Near 90, still there, contentedly alone, best friends are exes and their wives.

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