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John Scalzi @scalzi.com

For a dozen years or so I've had a posse of right-wing fuckwits trying to assert I am not a real man because I don't perform masculinity exactly to their (extremely sad and limiting) definition of the concept, and yes, that sort of gender-patrolling is on a shitty spectrum that includes transphobia

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Patrick Nielsen Hayden @pnh.nielsenhayden.com

Amplifying that last repost. I don’t get people who don’t understand that anti-trans hatred is only secondarily about controlling trans people. Its main purpose is to control you.

Anti-trans weirdos want a world in which they get to police everybody’s gender conformity, every minute of every day.

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  7. itmustbebunnies.bsky.social profile picture

    🌿Fern🌿 @itmustbebunnies.bsky.social

    One of the many things I enjoy about your writing is how well you write women characters. The respect that you show is evident. I love that you never gendered the protagonist in Kaiju Preservation Society. The women in the Collapsing Empire brought me so much joy.

    Thank you 🙏

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    Kevin Wardrop @kevinwardrop.nitemayr.com

    Anti-Trans Rhetoric is simply people trying to create a single version of reality and anyone who is outside of that narrow definition should be punished for it or invisible.

    So you end up with Feminine Boys being punished and masculine women being assaulted.

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    John Scalzi @scalzi.com

    (And honestly when you consider how fucking bog-standard I am for a cis dude in the world, both in my gender presentation and how I interact with the world, you'll perhaps grasp just how straitjacketed these chucklefucks' definition of "masculinity" is)

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    M.K. Tiddy @naykrop.bsky.social

    I follow your account in part because you sort of remind me of my husband, likely in all of the same ways the rightwing fuckwits latch onto. Men like you are peak non-toxic masculinity and we love you!

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    Muad Lib @muad-lib.bsky.social

    I would counter the person you’re commenting about and say the primary focus is attacking trans people, there are just all sorts of side effects that the goons welcome and relish.

    A whole burrito of bigotry

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    Michael Fuss @mfuss.bsky.social

    On the account how often you post adoration for your wife on social media there can't be the slightest doubt that you are a man who is attracted to at least one woman.

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    NoIQ @noiq15.bsky.social

    The one word that underlies trans-rights is simply "Liberty"

    Why the fuck should anyone have political control and enforcement of other people's gender?

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    @duckinapond.neocities.org

    The new Superman really does a great job on recontextualizing what a "Masculine" man is, reason why a certain group sadly does not like it...

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    Tess Roland @theothermcboots.bsky.social

    My mother used me as an emotional surrogate for my father--she thought Carrie and American Psycho were comedies. I was a quiet nerd who tried giving my 'secret' crush a giant backpack sized Teddy bear in the middle of 9th grade algebra.

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    NorCalDC13 @norcaldc13.bsky.social

    It would seem to me that expressing your masculinity in whatever wa you goddamn well please is the ultimate sign of a healthy man. People who conform to the group for the sake of conforming are sheep, even if they call themselves lions.

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    Kathy Glenn @kathy-glenn-29.bsky.social

    Cis female here, and I concur. No time for these chucklefucks, as you called them. They're sad, pathetic, small-minded folks who think everyone should conform to their limited view of the world. Fuck that.

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    Maria Schneider @bearmountainbooks.bsky.social

    Women have been told throughout the ages how to dress, what they can wear and can't, how to sip tea, etc. There's always someone telling others what to do or trying to sell their version of perfect man/woman/dog. They should stay in high school and let the rest of us get on with life.

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    Tony Clemens @tonyclemens.bsky.social

    There definitely are people (male and female) that have a very limited definition of what makes a "real" man. Luckily I'm old enough not to give a shit anymore

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    Mike Fennelly @swizzlebeef.com

    I have an 11 year old son who still wants hugs and snuggling with a book at bedtime. I am overjoyed at this. Anyone who thinks that this is not "masculine" can munch my taint.

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    @politicsofcars.bsky.social

    The same sort of guys were so shook by what a Black president meant to their conception of white masculinity, that they started rolling coal to punish anybody not driving lifted diesel trucks.

    Coal rolling is done by forcing more diesel fuel into the engine than the engine can handle, coordinating its release to get as much attention as possible. The coal rollers target eco-friendly cars, the Prius in particular, assuming that the drivers of such cars are liberal-leaning and are therefore likely to be most offended https://auto.howstuffworks.com/coal-rollers.htm#:~:text=Rolling%20coal%20started%20when%20people%20with%20big,in%20the%20name%20of%20making%20people%20angry.
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    JW @wood4321.bsky.social

    John, as a CIS straight male who really loves playing sports, I choose to play in the gay leagues because bro culture is the fucking worst.

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